White Flowers

By Mary Oliver   Last night in the fields I lay down in the darkness to think about death, but instead I fell asleep, as if in a vast and sloping room filled with those white flowers that open all summer, sticky and untidy, in the warm fields. When I woke the morning light was…

Be Who You’re Looking For

“All of my life I’ve been looking for someone who will….”  It’s amazing how we can have such a detailed understanding of what it is we want from and in that certain someone in our lives, but when asked what we want from and for ourselves we draw a complete blank.  It’s not that we…

Emotional Competency

In this year of the goat the theme will be about being competent with our emotions. That has nothing to do with controlling them, repressing them, regulating them, or attempting to release them back into the wild.  It’s about being fluent in them, competent to use them just as we’ve (hopefully) become competent at driving…

Whew! We Made It!

The landing on this past year was a bit shaky but any one you can walk away from, right?  From the year of the Horse to the year of the Goat we’re moving out of emotionally turbulent waters into the quieter passions. Chew on that for a bit while you enjoy a relaxing and happy…

And So It Begins…

Or not.  It’s Friday, it’s a long weekend after a long weekend and the holidays have just happened and stuff.  So take a moment to look at things a different way, hang out a bit, clear away the party debris.  If you want to think heavy thoughts about where you’ve been and where you’re going,…

Happy New Year!

It’s officially 2015 and the year of the Goat.  Which means stop being lazy, get over your hang over, get off your ass or horse or whatever you ended up riding by the end of it all and get ready to work! LOL!!!! Just kidding (Get it?  Kid? Goat humor…).  Take the rest of the…

New Year’s Eve

It is the end of the year of the Horse and it’s been a wild ride for everyone, it would seem. Some have had a great time, some have survived horrible journey’s, and most of us have had a mixture of highs and lows that have left us a bit breathless.  As the wheel turns…

I Don’t Know What I Want

Yes you do.  Recently my clients have been saying that they don’t know what direction their life should go because they don’t know what they want out of life.  Then they proceed to tell me exactly what they want in life.  :/  The disconnect seems to be that they aren’t seeing these two things as…

Celebrate Life

Life is to be lived and if you’re not enjoying it you’re doing it wrong…or something.  Yes, life is short and each day we should have at least one thing that makes us smile just because, more if we can get them.  No reason to wait until some mythical later because later never really comes…

What’s Missing

Lots of us are motivated by what we don’t have.  We spend huge amounts of time and effort trying to fill in the cracks, trying to get to that satisfied feeling of “enough” and finding that certain someone what fulfills us or fills in the place where we need something because there’s longing…. It’s a…