I Know I Need To, But…

Managing by crisis is something that all of us fall into at one point or another.  How our day/week/month is going to go gets determined not by the long term plan or what would be nice, but by the defcon level of the issues that have to be handled within the time available.  If you’ve…

Nope, Not Today

There times when you just have to tell yourself, “Nope, not today.”  When gravity seems to have gotten stronger and you have to struggle just to get upright and your inner voice is telling you about all the things you should do with your day…Nope.  Not today.  When you realize it’s been years since you…

The Hardest Thing To Change

Life is full of obstacles.  Whether or not you believe that these things happen for a reason or the world is completely random, nothing ever goes smooth.  If it did we’d be looking around to find out what was wrong or who was setting us up for a “gotcha” type surprise. However, we are problem…

In Between Control and Allowing

Ancient wisdom counsels that the middle ground is best. You know, everything in moderation, don’t go to extremes, too much of something can take you out of balance, etc. etc.  One of the places where people struggle to find middle ground is in how much they need to be in control of themselves and the…

Overrun

Ever run beyond yourself?  You know, where you are running flat out and the rest of you is going faster than your feet and you just keep going until the sudden stop?  It’s not tripping and falling. It’s a bit like stopping on ice where you stop, yet you keep going because the sliding doesn’t…

How Dare You?

People get confused on the whole good bad thing.  LOL  ahem…I mean the spiritual messages about not holding onto anger, turning the other cheek, letting go of the negative, and keeping a positive attitude are very true and great wisdom to impart to us.  But none of these messages tell us not to feel hurt…

The Ties That Blind

I enjoy my neighbors on both sides of me for many reasons including the fact that they are good people and we all try to be good to each other.  With that said, I sometimes enjoy them because life can be funny.  One of my neighbors is a single Mom.  Her two youngest children are…

Is Your Head a Haunted House?

Ever noticed that certain things, actions, habits start an automatic script for you?  You smell a certain scent and it immediately brings up the same old memory of the same person told exactly the same way that you always remember them?  Or you see something and you instantly hear the voice of someone from your…

Goose & Bottle

I see a large number of people with Goose and Bottle problems.  They go around showing everyone the green bottle with the gosling in it and bewail the fact that the bottle is too priceless to break and the goose lays golden eggs and so can’t be harmed, but it can’t get out of the…

Suffering the Reverse

Part of my work is to listen to people’s stories. They think they are telling me the details of their lives, sorting through what is important and what is not, but what they are actually doing is telling me their stories.  Because if they were to tell me the facts it would be so dry…