Sometimes life can take you where you never knew you wanted to go. That can be a fantastic thing where you meet someone who makes your heart sing, find an amazing sale, come across something you’ve heard about but never had a chance to try, find the perfect camping spot or just see something amazing. …
There’s a well-known rule in corporate management: Be the ruler of your email lest you be ruled. It’s death by a thousand cuts, the rabbit hole of email where things just keep going and going, the never-ending email thread…you get the picture. If you work on email first you’ll never work on anything else for…
You can tell the difference between artisan and mass-produced. We all can at this point. Injected plastic vs hand molded, off the conveyor belt vs. just out of the oven, thrown together in sweat shop vs. just off the needles of the person selling it to you. It’s not just the price which can be…
People ask me what direction they should go or how they can figure out what they should be doing with their lives to fully live and be on their path. Well, we’re headed into spring and one of the things I’ve found that is in harmony with this year of the goat is to pay…
Books, movies, TV all like the dramatic gesture and the emotional tension of long-term issues exploding. It draws in the audience and makes them want to find out what happens next, but it also habituates us to see things in dramatic terms. When something has been going on for a long time we should feel…
Sometimes my clients are resistant to change because they misunderstand what is their essential nature, what they have been taught, and what is a survival mechanism developed through circumstance. There are those who think they are loners who instead keep themselves isolated because that’s how they learned they can be safe. But now that isolation…
A great deal of life is about decoding things. We have an experience, get a message, but the meaning isn’t clear and we end up having to figure it out on our own. Most lessons come either through pleasure (Yay! I like that) or pain (Owwww!!!! Stop that!). But pain has many different messages that…
Sometimes to have what you really want, to do and be what you really want, you have to go through being uncomfortable. Want an example, here’s one of mine. I’m a middle-aged woman huffing and puffing out there, but the joy of actually doing it, of reclaiming a part of myself that has been dormant…
Do something. One of the biggest problems that people face when it comes to achieving their dreams, walking their path, or improving their lives is they do anything and everything other than actually doing something that moves them towards the goal. I’ve talked with a number of clients who are still exactly where they were…
The New Codependency by Melody Beattie Codependency is normal behavior, plus. There are times we do too much, care too much, feel too little, or overly engage. We forget where the other person’s responsibilities begin and our responsibilities stop. Or we get busy and have so much to do that we neglect ourselves. Codependents may…