Tho’ Much Is Taken

I will drink Life to the lees: All times I have enjoy’d Greatly, have suffer’d greatly, both with those That loved me, and alone, on shore, and when Thro’ scudding drifts the rainy Hyades Vext the dim sea: I am become a name; For always roaming with a hungry heart Much have I seen and…

Stuck On How

Life can be very much like a puzzle. There are all these things that need to get done, that we want to get done, that we should get done, and of course there are the things we call our real life which is the reason we’re doing all these things, but somehow all the things…

Let’s Talk About It

You can’t talk yourself into being changed. You can talk yourself into a process that will change you, but talking won’t make you take the actions and it won’t keep you at them past when it’s new or exciting or fun. Talking won’t conquer the fears that you’re avoiding. Actually, talking is something people do…

That’s Just Part of My Character

Is it?  Is it really?  People tend to excuse issues they have, struggles and reactions, hot buttons and behaviors, by saying that it’s just part of my character or that’s just the way I am or that’s just the way I’ve always been.  We don’t say this around the positive things such as intelligence, talent,…

Put Down the Stick

People think that they don’t measure up.  They aren’t meeting the goals that determine whether they are a success or a failure, that define their self-worth, that make for a “happy life” and so something must be wrong with them. Many times they can number those wrong things in great detail.  They spew out reams…

The Bridge To Nowhere

The bigger a plan, the more it stretches out over time, the more there are pieces which are blank or we put question marks in them because at the moment we don’t know.  Sometimes this is just because we don’t yet have the time to really sit down and figure them out. Sometimes it’s because…

Fractal Life

People think that following their path is a matter of finding the darn thing and then it will spool out in front of them and all they’ll have to do is walk it.  The focus is on the finding because somehow those wily paths in life are like Buggs Bunny and we’re Elmer Fudd.  So…

Controlling Change

Sometimes change is incremental.  Like age it covers miles one step at a time and we don’t really notice the journey until something points out that we’ve made it. When people talk about the change in their lives, the positive changes they’ve made, this is usually what they are referring to.  They point out this…

Interpretations

Many times a problem lies not in the event that happened but in our interpretation of it. We are meaning making machines and a large part of our early years is spent in learning what things mean such as how our parents can know we were doing something (sound carries), why does my foot suddenly…

I Was Super Famous

…don’t you want to know about my past lives where I was a super famous person?  Um….nope.   Not because it’s not cool or interesting. It usually is to a certain extent.  There are books out there by people and about people who have been famous or influential in past lives.  I have clients that fall…