We all need community. We need friends and acquaintances and a social network with a variety of connections in it so no one person is expected to do and be everything for us and we can get all of our needs met, since we’re not islands and not necessarily meant to be self-sufficient. Add or…
I was once told that I shouldn’t go into business for myself because I’m my own worst boss. This was years ago when I was still a manager in corporate land. I was a bit taken aback by the statement because I was so firmly engaged, my personality entwined, with being a good manager. How…
The Medusa myth has always been a favorite of mine. I mean, it’s cool right? As a kid it’s a great story like Godzilla vs. Mothra. There is a horrible monster doing horrible monstery things that needs to be vanquished. And there is a hero who looks just like every other guy and he gets…
How many times do we have to hear something positive about ourselves before we believe it? I mean one person saying something is just their opinion and even that can be influenced by a million and one factors so it can be discounted. Two people saying it, well that could be random. So more than…
You’ll know something is healed when you no longer have a charge around it. When the trigger is gone, when you can be in the situation and it doesn’t cause you to implode or need to go through triage maneuvers to stop the bleeding, you will have successfully healed. It’s something that, like love, comes…
How many times have you heard someone talk about how everything in their life is perfect except for this one teeny tiny thing. Of course, it isn’t so teeny or tiny and as they are talking about it you can get a sense that it’s just the tip of a floating ice burg. If you…
Managing by crisis is something that all of us fall into at one point or another. How our day/week/month is going to go gets determined not by the long term plan or what would be nice, but by the defcon level of the issues that have to be handled within the time available. If you’ve…
There times when you just have to tell yourself, “Nope, not today.” When gravity seems to have gotten stronger and you have to struggle just to get upright and your inner voice is telling you about all the things you should do with your day…Nope. Not today. When you realize it’s been years since you…
Life is full of obstacles. Whether or not you believe that these things happen for a reason or the world is completely random, nothing ever goes smooth. If it did we’d be looking around to find out what was wrong or who was setting us up for a “gotcha” type surprise. However, we are problem…
Ancient wisdom counsels that the middle ground is best. You know, everything in moderation, don’t go to extremes, too much of something can take you out of balance, etc. etc. One of the places where people struggle to find middle ground is in how much they need to be in control of themselves and the…