You can pick your friends and you can pick your nose….No, no that’s not what I mean. In many situations as adults we learn that choosing what is worth attempting to change or challenge is worthwhile because not everything is worth the effort. We are happier if we don’t spend all of our time challenging…
Sometimes the oddest beliefs are taught to us by our families. And we don’t realize that’s what they are and that we live our lives by them until something brings them into bold relief. Early in my career I was given the opportunity to learn American Sign Language and work as an interpreter. During the…
Ever heard “Words are just words” or “Actions speak louder than words”? While words have power, our actions show our beliefs and our intent even if we don’t know consciously what they are saying. Choosing over and over to stay home and watch other people live their lives says that you’re not good enough and…
“…I’ve learned that each of us has a basic view of reality and God that we act out every day in our relationship with our families, our friend, our food. It doesn’t matter whether we believe in one God, many gods or no god. Anyone who breathes and thinks and experiences has beliefs about God. …
In our minds we create an image of who we are and who we can and will be. And that image includes all the bad as well as the good and, in most cases, includes some pretty rigid rules. We can figure out what the rules are pretty through a simple exercise: Take a piece…
Have you noticed that when you are really into doing something, you can forget time altogether, not feel hungry, and when you’re done you still feel great? And when you are bored or unhappy or feeling stuck all you can think about is food? Feeding ourselves is not just about our bodies, in fact many…
Have you noticed that we tend to remember the bad things and take our emotional queue from them? Why not choose today to pay attention to the good things that happen. Make a list of good things that happen, small or large or both, and at the end of the day, read through it. How…
A friend of mine was at my house and we were talking clothes. Yep, I’m female and sometimes I’m a cliché. 🙂 But I was stunned when she turned to me and said “Your life is so much fun. Look at all of this!”. Now, I enjoy my life, don’t get me wrong, but the…
Society so applauds competition that it creates competitive concepts within itself. It makes additive behavior seem and feel like a reward and makes rewards look like self-indulgent behavior. It makes self-sacrifice and hard work for others seem virtuous even, or specifically, when it is damaging to you and makes it feel like doing anything for…
Have you ever wanted something but felt overwhelmed by how much work it would take to get it? Has it felt impossible to get from there to here? That’s common. We are, after all, only one person living in one moment at a time and most things that we want require a lot of moments…