One of the biggest blocks to setting boundaries with people is that we don’t want to get into a discussion about “Why?” Many times the whole point of the boundary is to limit certain interactions, but setting the boundary provokes the interaction we don’t want to have. What’s worse is the “Why?” questions around things…
In the spiritual community there is a lot of focus on going within. Go into your depths to find yourself. Go into the dark to discover who you are. Go inwards to find the truth. And I’m all for it. My family and friends will tell you I have no fear of going inwards, looking…
Lots of people feel that they are chained to their responsibilities. They can’t do this because of work. They can’t do that because of their family. They can’t do the other because of their pets needs. They put so much of themselves into their responsibilities and then feel depleted and frustrated and bleak because they…
We are all spiritual beings living an embodied life. These bodies that we are in are neither a natural form for us to exist in nor a symbolic emanation of our spiritual selves. They are not a meat suit we are wearing over our true selves nor are they meat cars we are driving around…
When we think about setting a new bottom line we think about it in context of having a ‘discussion’ with someone. We are “drawing a line in the sand”, “taking a stand”, or clarifying our boundaries, perhaps for the first time. It’s usually because we feel that they’ve been violated by someone and we need…
Too much of anything is usually a bad thing and everything can be taken out of context and therefore make a hash of things. Being overly flexible can be a liability. It can leave you twisted into shapes you aren’t meant to be in or make you into a doormat for others instead of leading…
Sometimes the logical way to do things, the prioritized, makes everything make sense, gets it all done method of life just doesn’t cut it. Sometimes we just have to do things in our own order, in a way that feels right vs. making sense. We may not have words for why, it’s just the way…
People confuse blame and responsibility all the time. Blame is what we use when we are emotionally charged about something. It’s the word that comes to mind when we are angry or hurt or aggrieved over something. We want something done about the situation. We want our feelings to change. We want things to move…
People don’t give themselves enough credit. They focus on themselves, listening to their inner guidance, pay attention to their conscience, take action to bring their lives into harmony with all that, start moving towards making their dreams a reality and then they ask, “So, you think I’m on the right track? Is this what I’m…
Clients sometimes come to me with preconceptions of what is causing them distress and what will resolve the issue. They come to me wanting validation of these preconceptions and the identities they’ve built for themselves validated. They can be desperate for this, in fact, as if it’s a lifeline to a drowning person and that…