If Only

It’s common for people to get stuck in relationships, not because there is anything sticky in the relationship, not because there is any confusion or misunderstandings about it , but because we dwell on “if only.”  “If only they would do this….” or “If only we could be like that…” or “If only they wouldn’t…” or…

There’s A Time For Everything

Life isn’t black and white, either/or, and how we live shouldn’t be either.  We should be practical and fanciful, clear-eyed and dreamy, living in the now but remembering our past and planning for our future.  We should be flexible enough to take advantage of opportunities as they arise, incorporating the results into ourselves, then adjusting…

Be Like Water

Bruce Lee: Artist of Life (Bruce Lee Library) Bruce Lee writes: After spending many hours meditating and practicing, I gave up and went sailing alone in a junk. On the sea I thought of all my past training and got mad at myself and punched the water! Right then — at that moment — a…

Walking/Jogging/Running

We’re taught to look for the lesson.  Everything happens for a reason, there must be something you need to learn, some purpose for why this has come to you.  Go inside and figure this out and everything will fall into place.  And I don’t disagree in principle.  Everything does happen for a reason.  I don’t…

Yeah, Yeah…I Know

We all have things in our lives like this.  The think we know we need to do or change or get to or work through, but we just haven’t because…you know…reasons.  Mostly because we make other things a priority and it’s way easier to deal with all of those than do *this*.  Because *this* is…

Change – Some Assembly Required

There’s this weird thing that happens when people talk about moving forward in their lives or making changes or manifesting their purpose or their dreams or…whatever.  On the one hand they talk about how they want things to be and then in the next breath they turn and look back at how things have “always…

Commitment

At some point you have to commit.  It doesn’t matter about the signs, about the approval of authority figures, permission from spiritual beings, the stars alignment or what your family thinks.  Too many times all these things are in agreement that we should do the thing we want most in the world and yet nothing…

Don’t Assume

We sometimes build our own cages through assumptions or the opinions and assumptions of others.  Then we lock ourselves in them and rail at fate for making us a victim.  It’s a survival trait to put our energy into what we know will work.  No use wasting energy on possibilities when we know we can…

Give Yourself What You Need

Focus is a very good thing. Being able to channel our energy and resources and attention into the actions necessary to achieve a goal is crucial to making our dreams a reality.  Or to getting the bills paid and keeping food on the table.  And anything in between if it comes to that.  This can…

When Do Things Go Bad?

So many of us hope for and work for positive change in our lives.  We dream of the day when money isn’t a struggle, when we aren’t surrounded by people who treat us badly, when we are free to be who we truly are, when we can live the life we are meant to… and…